the ability to make apologies that are honest, effective and true

few people understand what goes into a true apology, or its meaning and purpose. Apologies can turn into tit-for-tat scorekeeping in a relationship, but that diminishes their real usefulness, as well as their effect. "People underestimate how important and moving it is when a person actually recognizes and apologizes for bad behavior," says Lauren. "Logic would tell you that admitting to a shortcoming or failure is a sign of weakness, but the opposite is true when it comes to matters of intimacy. A true apology makes you a more powerful force in your relationship. The challenge is being strong enough to see the error of your ways and admit to yourself and your loved one that you may in fact not be perfect.

Apologies offered regularly and meaningfully show you do indeed pay attention to how you behave with others, including those you love most. "When done with integrity, saying you are sorry is a form of self-management that displays true regard for other people," says Lauren. "It really works and is healing -- for you and your relationships. And besides, it feels really good."